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Just as a matter of curiosity (and shameful accountability), I thought that I would compare my experiences of being a Fapstronaut both with and without an
The Journey – Single vs in a Relationship. Just as a matter of curiosity (and shameful accountability), I thought that I would compare my experiences of being a Fapstronaut both with and without an S/O. Partly my thoughts are in response to a sentiment I’ve heard echoes of in various threads: that NoFap while single is some kind of hard-mode” as compared to undertaking it while in a relationship.

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I’ve found this to be not entirely true – there are challenges to each, but always motivations to look to. When I began NoFap, it was after a breakup – and I’m not the kind of man to go out for random hookups, so I wasn’t having sex during my first fapstinence attempts. Once you get into the second month and beyond, in many ways it’s as though the trail gets less treacherous. The ups and downs are less so – of course, the raging desire is always there, but you get used to it. You start to appreciate it – I certainly loved the feeling of lusting at a random girl on the bus and feeling that desire circulate through my whole body, like blinding light flooding a room. To keep myself going, I focused on my reasons: 1) to develop more emotionally and become more open, 2) to improve sexual performance (ED had been a minor problem), 3) to focus on my purpose in life, and 4) to be more desirable, as a man. After a couple of slips, I made it beyond 90 days. On day 104, I had sex with the girl I had fallen in love with. Life was awesome – now, fast forward several weeks of awesome sex and emotional openness and happiness. It wasn’t as thought this happened consciously, but suddenly my reasons for NoFap. weren’t as important anymore. Or rather, they now seemed far more “fulfilled” than they had before. I know, of course, that my continued success with NoFap was the reason that I felt good about them, and that a couple PMO binges would be all it would take to undo some of the self-worth I’d built in myself. Unfortunately, this was a lesson I had to learn the hard way. After 120 days, without knowing quite how it happened, I spent roughly five hours one day binging on PMO. Then, the next couple times I went to have sex with my girl, there was a bit of ED in the way. And I’ve felt closed off. Distracted. I wasn’t prepared for shifting into NoFap relationship-mode from being single. The differences, I think, are twofold: 1) at least during a honeymoon phase, I was very happy and became complacent. It wasn’t as though I looked at my reasons for doing NoFap and said, “Oh, I don’t need to worry about these anymore” – more that the reasons themselves weren’t even on my mind. In fact, just typing them a minute ago was a bit of a brain-drudging refresher course for me. Always remember your reasons. And, 2) Sex. Physiologically, ejaculating. The paired-off fapstronaut cannot grit his teeth for three weeks and let the road get a bit easier – he must live in constant chaser-effect land. I suppose this post was just to share my experiences – and to caution fapstronauts that either entering or leaving a relationship WILL change your NoFap journey.

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