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Three twentysomethings tell all
Love me Tinder – tales from the frontline of modern dating. M odern love is digitised. Letters and unrequited love have been replaced with modern iterations (saucy pictures and ghosting).

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You do not go on blind dates, you go on dates with people whose best photos you deem, at best, attractive and, at worst, passable. No one asks each other out in person any more, probably. There are merits and disadvantages to Tinder, Happn, Grindr, Bumble and the rest. They dismantle the high stakes normally associated with the terror of asking someone out, but in doing so they also cheapen the act. Post-Tinder, love feels disposable, people become something to consume. This is what love online looks like. ‘I asked the first guy out after exchanging three sentences’ Libby, 27, customer services assistant. In January this year I downloaded Tinder, Bumble and Happn. It seemed like the only option to meet someone these days if you don’t work with, or hang out with, men. I asked the first guy out after exchanging approximately three sentences on Tinder. He announced he was emigrating the moment we met. I realised we were mismatched after approximately three minutes, anyway. He now lives in New York, I stayed in the country. One evening I got chatting to someone: skip forward three hours and I had agreed to meet him in central London. I stumbled up the stairs at Oxford Circus, spotted his bad shoes and realised that I just wasn’t Samantha from Sex and the City. I promptly ran across the road and down another entrance, and texted him to say: “I’m so sorry something has come up, I can’t make it tonight.” He sent me a lovely response that it was totally OK and we should go for a drink another night. We did. He had just been diagnosed with ADHD and they were experimenting with his medication, which tended to wear off at the end of the day, so he didn’t like to sit still for too long. But I really liked how weird he was and was totally thrilled when he texted me the next morning: “That was fun, we should do it again some time.” We did, three days later he hadn’t texted me. A week later, I was drunk and I sent him a meme of Celine Dion letting go of Leonardo DiCaprio in Titanic whispering, “Jack, I’ll never let go, Jack” because his name was Jack and I thought I was hilarious. The worst part of online dating is the first awkward face-to-face hello. Your preconception of the person you have been speaking to is always very oddly different to whoever it is you meet. And I also seem to make my mind up very quickly on how the night will go. I once heard a story about a man who turns up to dates early and buys himself a drink, so that when the girl arrives, he can send her up to the bar to get a drink and do a runner if he thinks they aren’t up to his exacting standards. That’s almost a reason to give up. One evening, I started speaking to a man – really interesting, engaging, all very effortless – and after three hours of constant messaging, we arranged a drink for the next day. He asked for my number – taking messaging off Tinder is a big deal – and then texted at 5pm to ask me where we should go. I texted back suggesting a bar, washed my hair and never heard back from him. Many, many people agree to a drink and then never reply. I’m almost not sure how to deal with any response to “Do you want to discuss this over a drink?” that isn’t silence. One guy asked me which person I was in one of my profile pictures, he said my friend looked like a much hotter version of me. I replied, “Oh, really?” He said, “You’re an angry woman, you would fall in love with me but also hate me a little bit. I bet you would slap me during sex.” We went on two average dates. I have never been on a Bumble date. It is rumoured the app has a hotter population of men. But it doesn’t actually put the female in control: it simply means vain men can read and smugly ignore your overthought openers. Happn is trying to add the cute “fate” dimension to app dating, but it just means you find your flatmate’s boyfriend on it as he is upstairs and the location tracker lands you in a dubious situation. I deleted it on Valentine’s Day. Illustration by Nishant Choksi. A friend of mine commented that no one hooks up with anyone on a night out any more. I reckon this is due to everyone prearranging their hook-ups on apps. Spontaneity can be overrated. I recently went on a date with a guy I met at a friend’s wedding. He complimented me on my dress, a face-to-face compliment means so much more than something throwaway over an app. We went on a date once we were both back from the wedding and, frankly, it was less than average, but I definitely pinned a lot of hope on it because I had met him “in real life”. Yes, dating apps can be funny and the stories are great, but if I do manage to marry a man, I would be disappointed if my husband’s best man said, “I still remember when he saw her profile on Tinder” in his speech. It gives you a thick skin but it still has a stigma attached to it and I’m envious of those who found love pre-apps. ‘One guy on Tinder had a great bio: fought a shark, lost an arm’ Jack, 26, freelance copywriter. I started using Tinder as soon as I broke up with my ex of four years, in January this year. I always thought it sounded fun so didn’t waste any time. I stayed away from Grindr as, very sadly, a man was murdered in a block of flats near my work on a Grindr date and it spooked me. I am very much a Tinder man. I have only had one bad date on Tinder out of maybe 12. And even then it wasn’t awful, the guy just thought his job in security was interesting when it wasn’t, plus he was on his phone quite a bit. The others were all really nice but I only really felt a spark with a couple. The weirdest date I’ve ever been on was a guy whose house I turned up at a bit drunk, which wasn’t really my finest hour, and when I went to the loo I found in the toilet bowl the passport and wallet of a guy he had just been making out with. We ended up dating for three months and really got on. It probably would have lasted longer but I think we were a bit of a personality clash. Illustration by Nishant Choksi. There was another guy on Tinder with one arm who I matched with and he had a great bio. “Not the best at juggling (fought a shark, lost an arm)”. I think he may have lost in it an actual shark attack. Since being single I haven’t been asked out once in real life. But maybe that’s because we’re all on Tinder now. I think it’s harder when you’re gay because you can really fancy someone but it can be quite embarrassing to ask someone out, then they turn out to be straight. So Tinder is nice in that respect – you can be sure the dudes you like are at least into dudes, even if they’re not into you. The trick is to assume that the ugliest photo he sends is the truest representation. After all, we all try to present the most attractive profiles of ourselves. From experience, it’s also a good idea to avoid freelance models. I think people are a bit more dismissive on Tinder dates than they would be if they were with a friend of a friend or someone they had met in a bar – although seriously, does that ever happen? If there isn’t a spark you don’t feel any obligation to immediately say, “I had a really nice time but I didn’t think we quite clicked.” Whereas you might if you thought you would see them again. Tinder becomes a numbers game, the more people you meet the more likely you think you are to find “the one”. ‘My date arrived 40 minutes late, clearly drop-down drunk’ Katherine, 28, social worker. I used to meet girls in real life, but as I’ve got older, and lesbian spaces in London have become fewer and, frankly, grottier, I’ve found it more convenient to meet women online. Over the past few years, I’ve dabbled with various dating apps. I’ve tried OKCupid and Happn without much luck (they’re too alternative, or hetero). At points I’ve paid for a Guardian Soulmates subscription, which admittedly attracts a higher calibre of lesbian, but the pool of women seeking women is a small one. Mostly, I use Tinder. I know no other app where it’s possible to make four dates for the coming week in under an hour – it can be fun.

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